My Dating Sabbatical

bella effect detoxMy dating Sabbatical in short is a detox from the male race. Surely we spend too much time obsessing over men and what they want, how we should look and act? So I took three months man free to put all that focus and energy into something that needed the attention. Me.

I guess it’s like a strict diet, extremely difficult at first (no sex, no kissing/no cream éclairs) but as soon as you see the positive effect it becomes, well, kind of addictive. Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels and all that. I mean ok I had one minor slip up, but the guy looked like Brad Pitt so can you blame me? Plus it was only a kiss and a drunken one at that, so I let that one go.

What on earth is she doing that for? I can hear the thought process already so let me elaborate. This is not a dig or put down on the lovely, wonderful men in my life, this is in fact a show on how successful I have been since avoiding the highly charged testosterone fuelled sex. My rules are simple:

  • No Sex
  • No Kissing
  • No Touching
  • No Dating

Evidence that it works – my monthly income has DOUBLED! Yes, I am now officially richer than I have been since, ahem, the last time I was single. Irony does play its beautiful part as it will. Everyone knows the feeling of getting all geared up for a night out, ready to hit a swanky bar and throw a few seductive looks and get a few inquisitive strangers wander over and offer a drink in exchange for your phone number. We also all know the feeling when we get home after a night of being invisible and everyone was incredibly attracted to your best friend. Since my detox, I have officially had more interest than I possibly have ever had. I dress how I want, act how I want and play how I want. Having no one to impress and being myself seems to have created a magnetic force, truth be told it’s the unobtainable that becomes most attractive. I’m drawing a positive whilst the opposites are drawing a negative.

I have figured out and found my own style, happiness, confidence and made some pretty amazing friends from doing things I would never have done if I hadn’t of ventured into this Sabbatical. It’s anyone’s guess what can happen next…

NB – I would like to suggest the book “The Dating Detox” written by Gemma Burgess. This amazingly witty, funny yet real-to-life story is completely and utterly wonderful. It was a result of reading this that I embarked on my very own detox in April last year, 2011.


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